Friday, October 25, 2013

Making Life Work

often find myself focused on a single aspect of my life and -- I bet you can relate -- becoming discouraged over that one aspect.

Am I spending enough time with my family? Am I growing and improving intellectually? Do I devote enough time to prayer/spiritual growth? Am I current on developments in my profession? When will I work?

And, when will I run, BABY?

You look at an author like John Grisham and realize how prolific he is. You look at the life of a saint and realize the enormous time she devotes to the service of others and to prayer. You look at your colleagues and are astounded by the hours they put in. You look at other runners and realize the amazing number of miles and hours they put in and the results they're seeing.

Then, you look at yourself. And, ouch.

But, would I want John Grisham's 5k PR? Does he even have one? I envy the active nature of a postal worker or UPS delivery person's life. But, how about all the hours they spend in a vehicle? How about the million and one other aggravations they face? I deeply admire the great ascetics of the Egyptian desert, both ancient and modern, but could I really lived in a cave with little social interaction? I regret that I cannot train like an elite marathoner, but do I want the financial and physical pressure that so many of the world's top runners live beneath?

I would love to see what I could do on 100 miles, 2-3 weight sessions and one massage per week. But with my body, work schedule, and family and community commitments, it ain't happening.

Though I read it over 20 years ago, one element of the Life of Antony stood out to me. Before he was Antony the Great, the Father of Christian Monasticism, etc., he was just an 18-year old named Antony. His biographer writes:
And at first he began to abide in places out side the village: then if he heard of a good man anywhere, like the prudent bee, he went forth and sought him, nor turned back to his own place until he had seen him; and he returned, having got from the good man as it were supplies for his journey in the way of virtue(1). 
He didn't follow one teacher, he went from one to the next, like a "prudent bee." He took from each of them and integrated into his life. 

I was reminded of this when the Hobby Jogger advised an aspiring marathoner overwhelmed by the plethora of running plans and widely-accepted books. He wrote, "I'd say read a few of the books (cover to cover, not just look at the suggested schedules) and cook your own plan based on what works for you and your life. You'll probably find more similarities than differences among them." 

In training, in prayer, in running, in all the schools and all the books, I have found "more similarities than differences among them."

The same goes for training and eating. Among the 1,000,001 "diets" (all claiming to be "lifestyles," naturally) take Fruitarianism. I am particularly impressed the accomplishments of one of its chief enthusiasts, Mike Arnstein. But, it does not work for me to spend all that money on fruit, to ask my wife to only buy fruit, and for heaven's sake only fruits and raw vegetables? Come on, man! And then there is "Paleo" and, and, and. I have learned to take the best, the overriding themes in each and integrate them into my life, my situation, my puzzle (2). 

Our lives, it seems are more like a Rubik's Cubes than 2-dimensional puzzles: You take steps to improve one area (stay up late with your family, get up earlier to run) and another one gets shoved out of joint (rest)(3). You sleep in, you miss your run and/or you're late to work.
Our lives are a lot like Rubik's Cubes

I have been working on the best habit of all: The habit of being where I am and being faithful to what is in my life. It's hard for a dreamer, you know. 

I'll give you an example of a really, really weird habit of mine, an approach to my particular Rubik's Cube. After I explain it, you will know what anyone close to me knows: I am a little crazy (4). But hey that's me, so I am gonna harness it:
If you have a desk job, you know that it wreaks havoc with your body. Whenever, you have been sitting at my desk for a while, your hips, glutes and legs begin to tighten. This has been the bane of my running life. But what can I do? I have a desk job and one that requires many hours. That's my situation and, for many reasons, I am not changing it any time soon. I do not want to spend extra time away from my family and my running to do strength work. 

So, what's an eccentric runner boy to do?

Well, I drink lots of water, and whenever I get up to go to the bathroom, I go down to the first floor, up to the fourth floor, and back down to the second floor, taking two stairs at a time. Then, I'll do a set of some kind of strength work (pushups, bridges). The whole thing takes, what, two minutes? But I have cleared my head, stayed off social media (, for the win!) and kept my body moving. You may find it a little weird but, dearly beloved, I don't care.
Breakfast of champions?
When do I learn? Mostly, in the car.
When do I run? Whenever I can. 
When do I spend time with my family? Every second I get. 
When do I pray? Ideally, always (4). 
When do I sleep? Um. 

That's my life; those are the pieces. What about yours? 
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(1) Life of Antony, ch. 1., par. 3
(2) None seem to condone Taco Bell. Alas. 
(3) Speaking of marathons, Bob Hearn, who wrote a book on puzzles and runs marathons while solving Rubik's Cubes, also wrote a great summary of the prominent marathon training approaches. 
(4) And so are you. 
(5) Brother Lawrence, a 17th Century lay brother in Paris wrote in his classic, The Practice of the Presence of God, “A little lifting up of the heart suffices; a little remembrance of God, an interior act of adoration, even though made on the march and with sword in hand, are prayers which, short though they may be, are nevertheless very pleasing to God, and far from making a soldier lose his courage on the most dangerous occasions, bolster it. Let him then think of God as much as possible so that he will gradually become accustomed to this little but holy exercise; no one will notice it and nothing is easier than to repeat often during the day these little acts of interior adoration.”

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Getting Hurt, Getting Better

This post had been in draft for about four weeks.  

It was supposed to be my triumphant treatise(ito), outlining my journey from hurt to better (And So Can You!).  It is kind of why I often put off sitting with my priest for a catch-up*. I want to stroll  in there on some imaginary day and discuss all the faults I used to have.

Colbert was kidding, as it turns out.
Anyway, I started running again somewhere near my pre-injury level (weekly miles: 36, 46, 48, 50, 51, 54). Then this week, a minor kerplunk again. 

Many of my non-running friends (i.e., more than half the people I know and love), would say "Quit running!" or "CrossFit, dude!" or "Why are you so ugly?" 

But, it seems to me that the process of living itself is the process of getting hurt and getting better.  We should not run from the things that hurt us, but we also shouldn't pursue them in a way or to a degree that injures us.  

A Benedictine monk was asked by a curious outsider what monks do all day.

He replied, "We fall down and then we get up again."

And what do you do the next day?”

"Oh, the next day, we fall down and we get up again."

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But the difference between a little fall-down and an injury is the difference between a little mistake and big one that ripples far into my life and my family's.  

Injury's a form of burnout. 

The runner's body says to her, "Something is wrong, something is deficient, something is weak. And you have been ignoring it for way too long.  I'm done." One too many yellow cards. 

Someone will get this.
More bluntly, The Hobby Jogger has said "Injury is a failure in training." 

I like this definition because it directly ties injury to training, rather than characterizing it as some unrelated alien invasion.  There is a discussion thread for example on runningahead.com, dedicated to complaining about injuries.  The title is "Sucker Punches." Much as I respect those runners, I think the title totally misses the point of injury. 

With most injuries -- except for something like having to play on wet grass at Wimbeldon. Come on now! -- an athlete's injured because she did it to herself. More simply, she ignored herself. Or I did not care for herself.  

In the biblical injunction, "Love your neighbor as yourself" is the implicit prerequisite that it is right to love yourself. 

If I look at my personal failures (e.g., shortness of temper, impatience, unkindness, coldness of heart), I find that they started due to a lack of personal care.  For many days, I did not sleep enough, I did not eat well, I did not read edifying material and/or prayers were short or perfunctory.  

In running, it is exactly analogous. We are learning more and more that running injuries in the lower legs, for example, are really a result of a weak core (hips, back, glutes, abs). 

Much the same, when I keep plowing through day after day without taking care of my emotional and spiritual "core," the normal demands of my work and family become loud and intolerable.  I no longer want to understand what my daughter needs, I just want her to shut up. 

When I care for myself, I find that they become softer and even become welcome nuances, spices on life. Temptations become smaller and less attractive.  The very same things that used to overwhelm me become small and even absurd. 
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*What Catholics/Orthodox call "Reconcilliation" or (dun-dun!) "Confession." Well, Orthodox don't have a screen. Same room. He knows who you are

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Danger the Stranger

I'm not a thrill-seeker. I don't consider it brave or wise to run towards danger for the sake of bravado or to prove something. As a youngster, I never went out for football or hockey, though I like both sports. I mean why would I when all the thrills of hard-hitting journalism could be experienced as an editor of The Ram's Horn, the official student newspaper of Clarkstown High School North?

I find it nuts that grown-ups play tackle football, without pads (Yes, these are my friends). I am not sure that "patent attorney" breaks the top 50 of any Most Dangerous Professions list. I drove a Toyota for 235,000 miles and then traded it in - for a Toyota. Trail running? Rocks and ticks! Forget it. A little nippy out? Was that a snowflake in my window? Treadmill!

So, how do I account for my impulse to run marathons, particularly Boston, in the wake of what happened this past Patriot's Day?

Call me impressionable, but I am drowning in inspiration these days. When fundamentalists bombed my cathedral in Cairo, I saw people running towards the danger. I saw the same courage the day they bombed my cathedral in Boston. I do not feel so much brave as I feel buoyed and swept along by the mettle of those around me.

The words that come to me again and again are those of Jesus: "I have come that they may have life and have it more abundantly." (1) I interpret that as touching my earthly and eternal life. God has made me a runner, and if, in fear, I only half live, burying my gift in the ground (2), I cannot say that I trust him or that I am honoring him. Standing in a church and reciting a creed can't be all there is to it. Only mobsters, molesters and demons (3) believe that.

Better days: Pope Kyrillos and President Abdel Nasser (1968)
Courage is more than stupidity dressed up. Quite the contrary, it is the first virtue. Without it I cannot stand up to what is bad, ugly or lacking in me. And so St. Gregory of Sinai wisely observes, "Anger is tamed and becomes transformed into benevolence only through courage and mercy" (4).

Of course, courage means going to places that are underserved and dangerous. But, it must also have something to do very fundamentally with how we exist every day. It must touch very the way in which we decide and behave in small things; whether, in those small moments -- when we're insulted or tempted or threatened -- we act from a position of life or of fear. Isn't it true, haven't our lives told us, that so often being "sensible" is really just another way of being afraid? We often console ourselves that we're acting wisely and prudently, when in fact we are just scared to do what is harder or more perilous. A person might spend hours with fake sex (e.g., porn or in strip clubs) or get piss drunk every night rather than face his real-life wife and marriage. "It's better than cheating or fighting. It is for the peace of the family" he may reason.

When we succumb to something that is weak or sinful, we are essentially acting in fear. We have decided that we do not want to stand firm, by the grace of God, and let that anger, that lust, that greed, wash over us and pass through. We want to appease it, always hoping that this will be the last time. But history and experience tell us that all bullies, visible and invisible, will come back again and again as long as they know that we are afraid of them.

Fear is why weak men in weak cultures throw rocks at adulteresses and prostitutes. They are afraid of lust and so opt for violence. Jeff Edmonds hits it:
We opt for violence when we can no longer endure the difficulty of living with others, the difficulty of recognizing our limits, the difficulty of being vulnerable ceaselessly to pain. To endure is to keep going in spite of those limits and the pain of life. To endure is to expose ourself to the world, to others, to the ravages of time and effort. To endure is to risk loving, to risk being loved. A marathon doesn't always have to symbolize this. Sometimes it is just a race that runners run. But this year it is more -- it is a symbol of endurance (5).
And so when Jesus stood bravely in front of the violent rock-bearing men, he did not protect the woman with yet another rock. He did something that scared them even more. He made them look inside: "He among you who has not sinned, throw a stone at her first." (6). And when Judas went out to meet them, he did so under the cover of night (7).

"The glory of God," wrote St. Ignatius, "is the human being, fully alive"(8). I never feel so alive, so un-neurotically penitent, so exploding with joy and hope and love and LIFE as when I am out running. I know it and God knows it.

There's no running from that.
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(1) John 10:10
(2) Matt. 25:18
(3) James 2:9
(4) Texts on Commandments and Dogmas no. 13
(5) Edmonds, Jeff "A Bomb is the Opposite of a Marathon."
(6) John 8:7
(7) John 13:30
(8) AH IV, 20, 7